ROCKETS ROCK!

Last night was a blast! To say the least! If there is one thing that i have mastered with having 3 children is that I can throw a kids birthday party. I will be honest I only ended up throwing this one at the last minute since I had a fear that Dylan was going to be disappointed in not having a big party like I always give him! It must stem from not having a bunch of birthday parties growing up since my parents were so poor with back to school that their just was not enough money at the end of the day.

Dylan received a bunch of new clothes(what i begged other moms to buy, hey I have 2 others to buy back to school stuff for too) and some really fun toys. I am trying to be more attentive to what he talks to me about when we are at different stores. when I was buying a new camera about a year ago he really wanted a pirates of the Caribbean camera...no way Jose was I going to buy him a $50 camera....HELLO TARGET CLEARANCE AISLES...for 9.98 I was able to buy him a cool yellow sponge bob camera that is digital and all I have to do is download the pictures for him!! We also bought him a bow and arrow set (toy) since he never gets to play with his real one so I thought it would be good to play with (also target clearance) and a few other random things...the BIG GIFT OF THE NIGHT was his 7ft tall ROCKET! when he was at camp he LOVED the rocket that they shot off daily...I went on a hunt to find one...but luckily I had told my family what I was looking for and they found a great one clearance from $50 down to $20!!! GREAT DEAL!

IT was a blast to say the least...I think all of us adults were nervous since it shoots up about 100 ft in the air and was not sure where it was going to land...we were ok it stayed in the area and we let the kids shoot it 3 times...it takes a lot of work to set it up each time...lucky for me I had Dom and Travis to take care of that part.

All in all the kids had a blast and by 9pm when the last few were leaving my voice was donzo and I was wipped out. I tried my best to clean the upstairs back up for Jason. He missed the whole party since he closed last night and got home about 9:30 from work.

We chatted for a few minutes fought with the kids to go to bed. Then I went took a shower and crashed...I did not read, watch TV or pass GO! I was out!

I feel weird thinking about that is the last party that I am going to throw at that house. I am sure that Jason will do something for them but really that is always where I shine! Wow that is a depressing thought...better get back to work and stop thinking about sad stuff..

packing sucks part 2

I thought the last blog was going to simply say that packing sucks...but clearly I had more on my mind!

HAPPY 8th BIRTHDAY DYLAN! 8 year today you were born at Via Christi St. Joseph at 4:59pm! You healthy 7 lbs 3 oz 21 inche little man!

BTW you are the only kid out of the 3 that dad bought the expensive baby shoes for! Sorry Tanner and Emily I discovered Payless shoes worked well too and they were a 3rd of the cost!

packing sucks!

This one is short and sweet! I hate packing...I hate moving....I hate begging people that are stronger than me to help me pack and move...I have literally spent every night at home the last few nights packing all the junk that I have.

Jason is going to get the great end of the stick when I am all done since I am going through all of the stuff we have collected over the last 9 years and deciding 3 options. Jenn Jason or TRASH! I was going to say donate as well for a 4th option but honestly I am leaving all that stuff in Jason's....he can deal with it later...the house is much bigger than my place is going to be!

On that part I am starting to feel like I am getting items off my list accomplished. I have a place to live OFFICIALLY! I will hopefully be able to sleep in a bed in the next 10 days! I am setting bills in my name again (yuck) and transferring others into Jason's name...haha...I still need to open a new bank account...this is harder than it seemed to me in the beginning...I hate anyone holding my money BUT I have bills that are due like yesterday and it is hard to pay credit cards with cash! Plus I fill so rich when I actually have cash...it is not something that I have been used to for so long...

I think I will stick with only using cash for my everyday items..it has helped me budget myself...another thing I need to get checked off is setting up a realistic budget for myself...I feel like adding in one good bottle of vodka a month is not extreme...but since my birthday is next month I am OK if others want to give me bottles for slow months...HELLO I am commission ONLY...priorities people!

I also need to mention in this blog that I have an amazing supportive family and friends! I know this is hard for everyone and I don't expect anyone to choose sides I just want everyone to get along. Jason is a great guy, a great dad, and really loving and supportive of the decisions I am making in my life it is just hard to think that we grew so far apart in the last few years. It is going to be hard to adjust for both of us. Yesterday I caught myself calling me because I was so pumped that I did not have to put a deposit down for GAS SERVICE!! Funny huh...since it is for the home I am setting up for me and the kids....and not with him...

I know deep down I will always love him and I am happy that I had DYLAN TANNER AND EMILY with him because I cannot imagine any other person that is a better father than him!

OK back to me work to do list! BURGH!!

ohh on another note if I have not called and talked to you about all of this it is not due to the fact that I am ignoring you or being rude it is just mainly do to my pride. I love talking about my self and the kids (we all know that) it is jsut taht I hate when the first thing out of someones mouth is I am so sorry...we can talk anytime...I dont want people to suck me down into a deep depression and talk about it all of the time...honestly this is just one part of my life right now...the kids still need me and I still work my butt off (maybe more now since I am paying all the bills on my own).

Dylan

I was sitting by myself last night when I started thinking about the fact that my kids are starting to grow up on me. I know i know they are only turning 8 and 5 and soon 4 but I remember wondering what it was going to be like to have kids that age when I was carrying one in a car seat, dragging one by the arm and pushing the other one in wagon all at the same time (and you guys wonder why I am so skinny).

Dylan turns 8 in 2 days and I remember the day that he was born the most since it was such a life changing experience for me and the moments that actually looking back made me grow up. Because of Dylan I am the person that I today. I wanted to be the best mom that I could be and be successful at work as well.

Dylan.

I remember that day you were born, the most beautiful baby boy I had ever seen all 7 lbs 3 Oz and 21 inches of you.

I remember how you never slept EVER and I walked around like a zombie for the first 2 years of your life.

I remember how you called me daddy and never mommy....and how I found out you starting crawling was that you crawled your way into another room and pulled my curling iron down on your arm and had to wear a cast for weeks.

i remember when aunt Jessie and I discovered your first tooth only to find out later that it was just milk!

I remember little rascals and you singing the pickle song. that's how you got the nickname of pickle...that and when you were a baby you loved the taste of sour stuff.

i remember watching you and Izzy climbing the cabinets in the kitchen to steal cookies and getting stuck on the drawers and being to afraid to climb back down.

i remember you losing your pants at our wedding and Katelyn chasing you around with them.

i remember when you became a big brother and met Tanner for the first time and was unsure why this little monster moved in with your mom and dad.

i remember the day of your EEG and how scared you were and how scared I was and how we both cried through the whole experience.

i remember how happy I was to finally hear your diagnosis and that all the research I had been doing was exactly correct.

i remember your love of clocks, then trains and now snakes. I cannot wait to see what is next. my hope is reading that is my love!

i remember the spring you played soccer and one of the kids on your team called you a mean name and how I walked away from the field instead of screaming at his mother for his manners since I knew that this was going to be a battle that you were going to have to fight for many years to come.

i remember in kindergarten when you came home every night and cried about all the little girls in your class chasing you since you did not understand they had crushes on you. You always thought they were being bullies!

i remember when you read your first book to me, tanner and Emily.

i remember when you told tanner that you were his big brother but not Emily's since he did not want a brother and a sister.

i remember when you told Jason that there was an owl in your tree house and that is was jacking around.

i remember when you cannonballed into the deep end of the pool by yourself...with no life jacket and proved to me that you know how to swim all by yourself!

i remember...

i remember...

i remember...

i remember...

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I cannot wait to fill in more blanks in your future...I know that losing your first tooth is right around the corner.

love, mommy

IN OTHER NEWS!

Okay where do I start on the updates!

Dylan- Attended Camp SSTAR last month and loved every minute of it! He came home everyday and had great stories to tell and they did group activities and I already bought his birthday present because he feel in love with the rocket that they shot EVERY SINGLE DAY! The counselors told me EVERYDAY and EVERY MORNING how much they were enjoying him and how helpful he was with the other campers! He was asked back on the last day and his spot will be ready for him next Summer! HURRAY! Thank you uncle DOM for paying for this! It is the best gift he could have been given! He also made a great new friend Seth and they have since seen each other for play dates!

Another great update is that Dylan is officially swimming in our pool with NO LIFE JACKET! This is such a big deal for him and I am such a proud mommy!

TANNER- since we have lived in our home (this is our 3rd summer) Tanner has not entered that pool with out going past the stairs. He hated the water, but he went outside of his comfort zone this year and is officially swimming with his life jacket. I have even been able to upgrade him to a cooler one that has a shark face and he loves it to pieces. He is even jumping into the deep end and letting his head go under water. I can tell by watching him in the water that he should be able to doggy paddle around without but I am not going to push him! ANOTHER Proud MOMMY MOMENT!

Emily- not such a star student in the water but always looks so stylish sitting in her "big girls only" pool. Always complete with pig tails, cute swim suit of the day and model sunglasses! She went and spent the night with some of my friends while I was out of town about a month ago and they gave her a good lesson on what happens when you ask questions that you might not want the answer to.

I cannot believe this summer is starting to come a close already. Enrollment is in a few weeks! I am enrolling 3 people this year! I cannot believe my boys are going to turn 8 and 5! I can still remember all the sleepless nights wishing for this time to come and now that it is here I want to turn back time! But i will admit that tying their own shoes and buckling their own seat belts is also pretty amazing!

Car update-as many of you know I was a dummy and decided to try and drive through some water not realizing how high the water was and flooded out my Charger! A few days later they totaled it out and I am STILL waiting for the GAP insurance to finish paying off the balance after my insurance company wired them their $!! So sad I still tear up over the stupid thing..I know it was just a car but it was the car I was going to give my boys for their first car! OH well. My parents helped me out and helped me buy a new car ! Smaller than my last car but gets great gas mileage and cute to boot! (sorry I love to try and use to boot in random ways) It is a 2010 Mazda 3! It has nothing great but it is black and really that is really my only requirement!

WOW it been a long time!

I say that but really everyday I have been trying to decide how to put into words what is going on in our household. the easiest way to put it is that we are currently going through some extreme changes as a family and since we are unsure of the present we dont know how to explain the future to anyone really.

The one thing that I can say is I am TRULY blessed to have the family and friends that GOD gave me they would support any decision that I felt was right for me and the kids. I am sad that my life is taking the turn that it is right now and I would never have thought when I got married and said my vows before GOD that I would be breaking them.

The next few months, weeks and days are more of a time of adjustment and prayer and support mainly for the kids and less for me and Jason. I am worried and afraid of what this change will do to their routine how it will affect them emotionally, physically and academically as well.

Please don't read this blog and take it the wrong way. Jason and I are still living together and get along great. But the funny part is the things that we argued about daily do not come up as issues any longer when we both accepted that our relationship was and is over. I am glad that we get along now and I am hopeful that we will be friends for the rest of our life. I still count him as my best friend and I cannot imagine not talking with him everyday.

CAMP SSTAR!

Dylan received his acceptance to Camp SStar VIA email on Tuesday afternoon. He is pumped to say the least. This is the first year that he was accepted so it is going to be a learning experience for all of us! It is being held at Heart Spring in NE Wichita! The only draw back is that I will be driving him back and forth for that week but it will be worth it to see everything that he is learning and experiencing. The other bad part is the one vacation that we actually planned for this year is going to have to be canceled due to his camp. I just know through that this will be such a good experience for him that is worth it in the long run!

PRESCHOOL!

So this week has been filled with meetings for the kids! When is that not EVERY week. Last Friday Jason and I meet with the principal and the school psychologist and we discussed Dylan plan for the end of this year and what we are looking at for goals for next year! He still does not have an IEP on file or a 504 plan BUT they are making a Student Improvement Plan! they just don't seem to have the same concerns that Jason and I have. I am worried that I TO WORRIED and am over thinking it. Since he has been on the Strata for the past month I can tell a difference in some of his tests and his daily homework. I hope that means that it is helping him focus in class a little more each day!
On another note Tanner was officially RELEASED from his SPEECH IEP on Monday afternoon. when we had him tested last year he hardly even spoke but now he is doing so great! He will be entering the Early Childhood Program as a Peer ROLE Model! He has come so far in 2 years it is not like having the same little shy boy!
Emily also got an exciting phone call! She will be in the morning session at Derby Hills next year as well! She is super pumped to go to school and has already told me that she is going to get a Hannah Montana Purple and Pink Sparkly backpack for school and she will also need to get new tennis shoes for running!
The only problem that we are going to have to figure out is transportation for all of them. The mid day switch is going to be CRAZY!I will be dropping Emily and Dylan off in the AM. Then picking Emily up at 11:00 then coming back to the school to drop Tanner off at 12:00. Then coming back at 3:00pm and picking Dylan and Tanner up! GEEZ!!
This is where it is handy that both Jason and I have jobs in the same town that we live in and the kids go to school in!
I am so happy for all of them and we are all ready for summer to start so we can open the pool up and have some fun family time in the BACKYARD!

Fitness Bootcamp Wichita!

Hello all, short blog today I just wanted to let everyone know that I just signed up for my 2nd session with Edgar this morning! I am super excited to see what I can push my body to do by the end of this six week period as well! I am hoping by the end of this six weeks I can get myself to jog more than I walk and to hopefully double my push ups from the last session. I am also going to try and go 5 days per week vs 3 to really get myself "in the best shape of my life".
I am also excited that some good friends of mine are starting this journey with me as well. I hope that they reach the goals that they have for them selves and I will help in anyway that I can! Even if that means bringing them some Tylenol after a Saturday session!
On another note I dont think I give my husband, Jason, enough credit for everything that he does for me. he works a differnt schedule everyday and seems to find the time to have the house clean for me everyday. Without him I KNOW that I would not be able to focus on my job as much as I try to do and the kids would suffer more than I should admit. Thank you Jason for being so supportive of me and my dreams!

Weekend Wrapup!

Wow another Williams weekend has been put to rest! I honestly feel like I did a lot of nothing plus a little to much all at one time! I did not clean I did not do laundry but I did watch all my shows that have been sitting on my DVR for way to long! Now that what I call productive!

Friday night was girls night the boys got to got to church and hang out with some friends for a couple of hours while Emily and I literally played in the "girls toys" in Wal-Mart for WAY TO LONG! I told her that she could buy one toy and for some reason she really wanted to find a PINK CAMERA....I was worried on how much that was going to cost me...whew only $9.95 a lot better than I expected.

We left there and I just cuddled for a couple of hours and I read until it was time to go get the boys from church and they were wiped out! Dylan fell asleep in the car on the drive home!

Saturday I got up at 6:00 went to the boot camp evaluations. Okay guys I will let you in on a little secret I lost my initial evaluation sheet but I do remember a few items that I wanted to improve on!

Five weeks ago I ran/walked/jogged the 1/2 mile in 7 minutes and 34 seconds this time I did it in 5 minutes and 13 seconds! GREAT IMPROVEMENT FOR ME!!!

Five weeks ago I did 4 push ups this time I did 23 push ups! WHAT!! Those were my 2 big ones I only did 3 more sit ups from last time and overall I don't know if I lost any inches on my body since I lost my paper! Clearly I can tell that I am really getting stronger! I am getting ready to sign up for another 6 week session this week!

Saturday afternoon I took the kids to a bowling birthday party! They had a blast bowling, eating pizza and cake they were wiped and I think 2 out of the 2 feel asleep! I pretty much dropped them off with dad when I got home and left with my sister Jessica to go to a "Slumber Party".

It was at my cousins house and it was fun meeting all of her Yoga people! I wish I had even half the flexibility that those people have! Maybe that will be my next goal after I get a little bit more stronger!

Sunday was pretty much a lazy day I did not get the kids ready to go to church I figured I would just let them run around in undies and lay around and do a bunch of nothing for awhile. That worked but around 2 I started getting them ready since we were going to the circus that night!

We went to the Shrine Circus with the my family and we had a really good time. I spent way to much on food and junk that will be lost within a few days but it is always fun to be able to do something special with them! Needless to say I was wiped when I got home and Jason pretty much put all the kids to bed gave Dylan his nighttime meds and I laid on the bed next to him and CRASHED!

On another note!!! I will post some pics on the website I just tend to type this from my work computer and all of my pics are saved on my laptop!

Shrine Circus Parade! Mom of the YEAR!

So the circus is coming to town and I am planning on taking the crew to watch all the amazing feats of amazement on Sunday afternoon. I am very lucky that I have a family that is so close so I am also going with my sister, her husband and my niece Natalie, my brother Dominic, his girlfriend Audrey and her son Jayden. I am excited for such a big group of us are going together. They always help me with the kids! It is hard to take 3 kids anywhere when they never have to go potty at the same time!

Anyway last night we went to the Delano district since I heard on the radio that they were doing a real live the circus is coming to town parade. The kid all seemed to have a good time a few times I did pick on Dylan and told him to run and join the circus this was his only chance. His response was "mom I can't dad told me that I needed to stay at home until I am 18." That cracked me up! I was completely blown away when we got home after dinner last night and Dylan came running into my room when he was supposed to be in bed already and gave me a huge hug and kiss and told me that that was the best time ever and he cannot believe that the Elephants were just wandering around the streets! I can honestly say there are very few moments in my mom life that I have felt like I did a good job and that made me aware that sometimes I am a good mom!

AWESOME DAY!

Bathrooms and Bootcamp

I am super excited I finally got Jason to break and buy the tile for our Master bathroom. Anyone that knows us knows that we have not had out master bath for over a year now. I miss having that privacy that you get by having my own bathroom. I think the process has taken so long since I did make less last year that I had in the last few years and that money allotted for the remodel went to other items (IE BILLS). I have also found out that Jason is ONLY drawn to the tile that costs $4.20 for a 6X6 tile. I am perfectly okay with the 12X12 for .77! I finally won that debate and he broke and bought all that we should need last night and I was pretty happy walking out of there since I know that is one big step in the right direction!

He had a really nice night since we were up North we took the kids to Hog Wild Pit BBQ. I kind of wanted Smash Burger a little bit more (since I have never eaten there and rumor is that they are going to open a location in Derby) but it was still delicious! We got home around 7 and it was time for homework and getting the kids ready for bed.

I woke up this morning at my NEW normal time of 5:01 am and headed off to boot camp. I am pumped since it was pretty nice out I think about 56 and I knew that meant we were outside. I have discovered that I am actually starting to see a change in my body, mostly my arms that I have never seen before. I am one of those skinny girls that 1. cannot run to save her life I would be the girl that trips and falls and dies in the movies and 2. I can only move furniture by pushing with my legs and pushing against a wall. I am weak and I know! Boot camp has kicked my butt but I am starting to walk out of there every morning (at 6:30) and am actually ready to start my day. The first couple of weeks I thought I was going to die and normally needed a nap right afterward!

If anyone wants more info I think the next training class starts on April 25! They have classes going pretty much all day from 5:30 am to 5:30 pm! http://www.fitnessbootcampwichita.com/

Easter Weekend!

Wow what a weekend we had!
The kids got to spend the night on Friday night with their Grandma Sherry (my mom) this was so Jason and I could attend a birthday party for a friend and then since we both needed to wake up early the next day we could just pick them up after the hike.
The party was fun and that group just cracks me up. I tried to teach them my families favorite game of Mafia! I was glad when Wendy took over and was narrator so I could play the game instead of just conducting the actions (I get a little to excited)!
Saturday morning the alarm was set for 7:01 am (I don't like to wake up to even numbers)! Jason and I rushed out of the house to go the Pawnee Prairie( I think that was the name) and go on the 8 mile nature hike with my boot camp class! I was a little timid by it but I was ready for the challenge! It had rained a little over night so the ground was very wet (I refuse to say it was moist like the lady behind me kept saying since that word grosses me out). Lucky for us since the ground was a little wet in most places it was to squishy to to the whole hike so we ended up doing a 3.25 mile hike in about 1 hour and 9 minutes! I was pretty happy about that! I am not much a hiker but we did spot 8 deer while we were out and about and I also say it was a success since I did not fall once! YES!
Saturday midday was mainly spent cleaning the house getting it ready for the Easter party for my family. I love having everyone come over but I really hate cleaning my house for guests to just leave it so trashed! The kids got to color a ton of eggs and do an egg hunt as well! They all seemed to really enjoy the whole evening! I love having my family over talking about when we were little and the bad things we did to each other!
I forgot about the time that i told Dominic that I was the bully of our elementary school and he better watch his back going into Kindergarten! LOL! I am such a jerk sometimes!
Sunday was Easter, the morning started off with all the kids getting prettied up for Church. We are not attending Aviator Church in Derby and I am really loving it! I have always been an avid church goer but something about Joe Boyd's Sermons just catches me. He did a great job and I was moved to tears twice that morning!
After church we went to Jason's parents house and enjoyed a very nice lunch and the kids got to do an egg hunt inside since it was raining outside! After we left there we stopped by Jason's grandma house and pretty much we all took a nap. While Tanner and Emily were still sleeping Jason, Dylan and I snuck out and went to see Hannah Montana the movie.
Before I get a loser tag put on me for my next comment i really like her new song The Climb. When she sang it was cried again! GEEZ!
After we picked Tanner and Emily back up we pretty much went home and relaxed until it was everyone bed time!

Day one!

Hello, new blog world and hopefully new blog family!
My ultimate goal is to show that you can have both parents work full time and have a strong family unit. Yes 90% of the time our laundry is not done but who cares that is why God invented the Laudry Mat. Yes we own the fancy washer and dryer but I actually am pretty weird and enjoy taking 50 loads to the laundry mat once every couple of weeks and doing it all at one time. The only hard part about that is that no one wants to put all of it away again! Maybe we need a third income to pay someone to keep up with it and just use the washer and dryer downstairs. HIGHLY UNLIKELY! Okay now lets introduce the family!

Jason R Williams, is a customer service rep for Verizon Wireless. He has been with them since September 2008. he really enjoys his job and works within two minutes of work! CRAZY!
I am Jennifer C Williams, I am a mortgage broker at Top Mortgage Corporation and have been here almost 6 years in May! I enjoy what I do for a living and cannot imagine not coming here everyday!
We have been married for almost 6 years (June 21) is our anniversary. We have been together for a little over 9 years now. We have three great kids and we live in Derby Kansas. I was raised here in Derby and love the city that we live in! It is just growing more and more everyday! I remember when 90% of this town was farmland! Jason grew up in Mulvane which is just a little south!
Dylan Cole is the oldest he is 7 and a 1/2 and in the First grade at Derby Hills. He was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome in January of 2004. He was also just diagnosed with ADHD last month. He is a very artistic child that enjoys drawing and talking about Reptiles!
Tanner Ross is the middle guy is is 4 and he is attending Derby Hills as well he goes to their Early Childhood Program! He loves school, his teachers and his friends! I get to hear about their adventures everyday~ He is one of the kindest sweetest little boys you will ever meet!
Emily Faye is our "baby" she is 3! She is 100% spoiled and knows it! She is very much a tomboy and VERY much a princess all rolled into one little spunky thing! Some of the things she says to me makes me stop dead in my tracks and try not to laugh!